How has staying angry fixed your problem?
How long do you need to burn before you surrender it?
How would you RATHER live??... View MoreHow has staying angry fixed your problem?
How long do you need to burn before you surrender it?
How would you RATHER live??
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"People who are hard to love need that love the most."
One thing that helped me get past my anger was realising that I was letting the other person control me when they shouldn't. This is no way to l... View More"People who are hard to love need that love the most."
One thing that helped me get past my anger was realising that I was letting the other person control me when they shouldn't. This is no way to live.
One of my favourite ways that I use to take back my power is to remind myself that they have this behaviour for a reason. This person was also a victim (even though I don't like to use that word, there it is). Mean people are hurting, too.
I don't say this to indemnify them, by any means, but it can help you to develop a bit of sympathy for them and, over time, you can learn not to get angry at what they do, because you'll maybe understand why they're doing it, and possibly even relate. Who knows?
If it's someone whose life you know a bit about, you can go, "Ok, well, they've been through such-and-such dilemma, and they're upset/still holding the pain. It's not really about me." That has helped me get over A LOT.
Even when they might go, "Well, I'm angry because you ______," whatever you did is VERY LIKELY reminding them of a wound that's not healed, caused by someone, long ago, who first did that thing to them, and now they are reliving that moment with you. You had no intention of kicking off with them, but they're being reminded of pain that has just never healed, and they are face-to-face with it once again. This can bring up a lot in anyone. I'd go so far as to say all of us.
Let's say you don't know the person that well and you want to use this method: just go, "Ok, well, they must be going through something difficult right now that they're too afraid to talk about, and they're acting this way. I may never know what it is, but it isn't about me." You are highly likely accurate in this assumption, and you DON'T need to run it by them to check on your accuracy. Just go with your instinct.
There is a lot - A LOT - tied into ye olde "inner child" and let me say, that little bugger is responsible for a great deal. We'll get to that another time, for sure.
I thought about this today when a client told me about a relative that made things extremely difficult. I had similar difficulties with the same relative in my own family, actually, and I said that one of my ways of getting past it was to remember that my relative's early life held a lot of grief that was never nurtured or resolved. So eventually I could train myself to have some sympathy, and I wasn't angry anymore. I learned to have compassion, instead. Made all the difference.
If any of this sounds like something you'd like to go deeper into, we can certainly have a chat and discuss whether my programme would be suitable for you. This is a great reframe. It was my grandmother. I forgive her everything.
Who could you become if you let go of your anger?
Who would that person be? How would they talk to people? How would they talk to theirselves?
Part of reframing your anger is examining your own pote... View MoreWho could you become if you let go of your anger?
Who would that person be? How would they talk to people? How would they talk to theirselves?
Part of reframing your anger is examining your own potential.
Can you describe that new, fresh, happy version of yourself in the comments? What would it look like to be free from anger?
Do you get angry when you realise you've ignored your own needs in order to fulfill someone else's?
And now you're in a rage over being bamboozled?
Did you bamboozle yourself? ... View MoreDo you get angry when you realise you've ignored your own needs in order to fulfill someone else's?
And now you're in a rage over being bamboozled?
Did you bamboozle yourself?
Why did you smother your own needs to begin with? What was worth that "trade"?
And, most of all... why do you keep doing it? For some pay-off for yourself or someone else?
Constantly holding your tongue, doing what someone else wants, never speaking up or saying "No".... these things will lead to rage because they foster the sore feeling of Powerlessness.
You've given up your power for something greater.... but is it? Would you rather have your power back? Are you ready to leave that nasty cycle behind for good? Have you learned this hard lesson for the last time?
There is a way to reclaim your life, happiness and power. You do NOT have to live as a slave in this situation or any other.
We will put everything out on the table, look at what works and what doesn't, and decide how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. You DO deserve happiness, peace of mind and a beautiful relationship with yourself. If this sounds like something you want, please schedule a free, 30-min session with me. I'd love to work with you. Link in bio.
𝓞𝓷𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓶𝔂 𝓼𝓮𝓬𝓻𝓮𝓽𝓼 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓻𝓮𝓯𝓻𝓪𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓼𝓸 𝓘 𝓬𝓪𝓷 𝓻𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓪𝓼𝓮 𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮𝓻...
When you are in a moment of anger over a memory or current problem, you have the option to ask yourself one question:
"What is this teaching... View More𝓞𝓷𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓶𝔂 𝓼𝓮𝓬𝓻𝓮𝓽𝓼 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓻𝓮𝓯𝓻𝓪𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓼𝓸 𝓘 𝓬𝓪𝓷 𝓻𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓪𝓼𝓮 𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮𝓻...
When you are in a moment of anger over a memory or current problem, you have the option to ask yourself one question:
"What is this teaching me about myself?"
I know people say that a lot... but it's true. It never hurts to turn inward and just ask, "What do I see in the mirror right now?"
When you do this, it can help you to acknowledge the anger, validate it and accept that it is the product of a feeling of powerlessness.
The big question is this:
"What do I need to do to give myself my power back?"
This can be different for every person and it can be addressed and healed. I promise.
If you'd like to schedule a free call with me to talk about it, I'd love to chat with you. Link in bio.
Where did all these self-righteous people get this "Stop feeling sorry for yourself" nonsense? What even IS that? Why is it when someone is at their wit's end about life and can't imagine trying to co... View MoreWhere did all these self-righteous people get this "Stop feeling sorry for yourself" nonsense? What even IS that? Why is it when someone is at their wit's end about life and can't imagine trying to continue any longer that someone pops up in their infinite wisdom and just deals out, "Eh, quit feelin sorry for yourself"? Are they serious? That's an atrocious answer and I'll tell you why they have no idea what they're saying: they've never had real and TRUE self-hatred or low self esteem because I can tell you right damn now, if they had, they'd know that it's not "self pity", but self REJECTION. let's explore.
Let's look at why people hate themselves to start with. What happened? How long has it been going on? Who was there in the first moment you felt this way? How has it gotten in your way nowadays?
This feeling almost always comes from a time in your early life when you were somehow taught that some part of you was just unacceptable. You were laughed at, ridiculed, rejected, despised, judged or, in some way, deemed unworthy of acceptance or love for who you are. Maybe you were shown that you were disappointing in some way. First thing I'd like to tell you is this: You are fine the way you are. I have been helping people all my life and I've never met anyone who wasn't in need of some simple understanding from a good listener. No one is less worthy than the next one. It's just not possible.
The fact that you've been taught that you are not enough or unacceptable in some way or another came from a person who thought that of themselves, otherwise they wouldn't have such a desperate need to project that shit onto you (which was their sorry attempt at trying to be heard and understood THEMSELVES..... more on that later). So it's safe to say, you could consider yourself a victim of a victim, but you're NOT stuck with it.
Now, when this person indicated to you that you are not what the world (or them) wanted, you had basically two choices at such a young age: be yourself and risk losing the love/acceptance/approval of the caregiver, which was your only or ultimate survival; OR denying that unacceptable part of yourself so that the caregiver would still love you, thereby ensuring your continued survival. It's sad but it's pressure we've all been put under at some point; it's just that some of us suffered from it more so than others.
So as you went through your life, you had to suppress that part of you to hold on to survival, and it turns into self hate because you've rejected yourself. This has nothing to with with feeling sorry for yourself; you are DENYING your own identity or essence, not wallowing in self pity... still in need of attention like any other human being, yes, but not just "sitting there feeling sorry for yourself." I hate it when people say that.
My other post on Self Hate is more in-depth here:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/61595709
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Y'all know I love my British cousins no doubt but this is hilarious 🤣🤣
Let's look at one event in your life that is still haunting you: one person whose comment or action still hurts you to this day. Here's a couple simple ways to change how you look at it so it doesn't ... View MoreLet's look at one event in your life that is still haunting you: one person whose comment or action still hurts you to this day. Here's a couple simple ways to change how you look at it so it doesn't torture you anymore:
1. Look at that person's life and see what might have happened to them to make them act that way. They may have been a victim, too. This does not require your forgiveness, by any means, but this angle can help you to see them as the human they are and, therefore, not as much of a domineering influence on you.
2. Ask yourself where you can feel this memory in your body, physically. There is a lot to be said for how energy is stored in your fibers. There have been times when I was exercising and I would just start crying. I knew it was the tension coming out of my matter. It's a good thing. Let it happen. You deserve it. You may not even know which memory is coming out of your body, but I promise, it can and it will if you give it a chance.
3. Is there anything that you might be in denial about that this event has really brought to the surface? This hurtful event has touched a real soft spot within you that you need to examine. Your attention is being brought to some part of you that needs love and understanding: an old fear?
I will go into detail (probably in a youtube video) shortly, but I thought this might be a good start. Let me know if this helps :)
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