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Miranda Wyatt

Female. Lives in Odenville, Alabama, United States. Born on April 20, 1987. Is married.

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I help 30s women with suppressed anger reframe the past and heal the relationship with theirselves

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Miranda Wyatt

June 21, 2022 5:43 pm

Why Women Are So Two-Faced We've all seen it: She is sweet as can be with you at your desk, but when you come round the corner into the breakroom, there she is, running her mouth about YOU. Why? You ... View MoreWhy Women Are So Two-Faced We've all seen it: She is sweet as can be with you at your desk, but when you come round the corner into the breakroom, there she is, running her mouth about YOU. Why? You thought she was trustworthy, professional, laid back, friendly, etc. What happened? Why is she two different people? How could you have been so stupid as to believe her facade? I'll tell you why: Women are terrified of not being able to survive, and they'll do whatever it takes to make sure they CAN survive; not thrive, just survive. They really live life from a baseline of fear (men have their issues, too, mainly disconnection. We'll get to that another time). We can't dance around it: this does, in fact, stem from 50 centuries of being smothered by a system who reminded them, day-in and day-out, that they were not only inherently worthless, but physically and spiritually nasty and altogether socially unacceptable, existing as mere men-gone-wrong-in-vitro. Any kind of power, personal or otherwise, was stripped down to the bare bones, and that system left one, sole technique in the vestiges: manipulation. That was it. Mind games. Once that got ingrained (P.S., it takes 8 generations [200 years] for a habit, diet, and most other things to get ingrained, genetically), it was the only go-to method for getting what they could from life, for what it was worth. Those habits, stemming from fear of not surviving, are so programmed into them that some of them barely know how to go without using them, and hardly even realise they're doing it. So, what you see is someone who is telling themselves (due to all that good home training and hateful self-talk that never got corrected or investigated, for example) that they have zero personal power or control over their life, and the only way to get through it and survive (not thrive or actually be happy, but just survive) is to play the game and use friendliness and charm, sincere or otherwise, with as many people as possible, to get as many of those people as possible "on their side" so that if they ever need help or are in danger, etc, there is guaranteed to be at least one or two people who will like them enough or think highly of them enough to come to their rescue "when things get bad," which is assumed as a general rule of safety because MOST women do NOT see life as an adventure or something to be conquered or taken advantage of, but just something to get through and hope their best will be enough for the 5 or 6 immediate people whose opinions matter the most. It's a bleak outlook, indeed. So what happens is that they try to be EVERYONE'S friend. Everyone's. I have seen this so many times that I almost expect it in some situations, which sounds a bit unfair, but you'd be surprised who still lets this fear rule their existence. So you'll have a woman who is perfectly friendly with you but who is also acquainted with your arch nemesis, and she will be perfectly friendly with that person as well, because she's afraid of limiting her "help" resources in a time of catastrophe. Sounds ridiculous but it's true. It may not be the reason for every single incident you see like this, but it's close enough to make a safe assumption. Living life from a home base of fear can make people do some silly shit. It really can. So, this is a very straight-forward way of clarifying at least ONE of the reasons as to why women "act crazy." It's just fear of not surviving. They also know that most of what they need is up to men, like getting the car fixed, handling something in an important office at the bank or the city, repairs in the home, etc, and they're still at the mercy of strange men in most situations where they are desperate for help or at least guidance or information (they see many situations as being "desperate" situations, while men will chuckle and look the other way [I was being followed by a group of troublemakers one time. I ran into a rent-a-car office and told the first person I saw that I was in danger and was scared. He laughed and asked me if I wanted water. He thought I was just adorable and laughed again while he pointed to a chair that sat in clear view from the street where they were. I got lucky that day and they kept moving]). Women also know that they get lied to about cars and money and the intentions behind all that help, so there's a great deal of uncertainty and fear surrounding basic survival in that way. Women's lib did NOT "save" us. If you know a women who demonstrates this kind of behaviour, and if you're feeling compassionate enough to be a bit understanding, I ask if you could take a minute to just remind her that the world is not against her, and that being careful in life does NOT have to entail being a smooth actress. Thank you for reading.

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