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The way we speak to our children is never just about the moment. It’s easy to forget that when we’re tired, stressed, or desperate for cooperation — but words don’t evaporate once the situation is over. They sink in, and they stay. Children are still building the story of who they are. And much of that story is borrowed from us… When we speak with patience, they learn they are worth the time. When we set limits with respect, they learn they can be both guided and valued. When we name mistakes without attaching shame, they learn that imperfection is part of growth, not proof of failure... But when we lash out — even unintentionally — our words can leave a different mark. A sarcastic jab can become I’m not enough. A dismissive remark can become what I feel doesn’t matter. Over time, what we said in passing can harden into the story they tell themselves — and eventually into the prophecy they live out. That’s why our tone, our choice of words, our willingness to pause, matters so deeply. Because long after the moment has passed, our words become their beliefs... And their beliefs become the life they build. ❤️