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"The Lies We Believe"No one wakes up in the morning and decides, “You know, today would be a good day to have an affair.” Not to say that those days don’t come, but they don’t arrive out of the clear blue. They are the result of a series of lies we tell ourselves over time. The first lie is—I deserve better. My spouse isn’t living up to my expectations. I am not getting the attention I deserve. I am not happy and I deserve to be. The second lie is—this other person really loves me and values me. I have finally found my real soul-mate. This is the person I should have been with all along. We have chemistry. We click. And the third lie is—I can get away with it. I’ll be real careful. No one need ever know. Here is the brutal reality. No one can give you the attention you think you deserve. Whatever attention they give you today will not be enough next week. It’s the law of diminishing returns. As long as you are focused on yourself your needs will escalate over time. Then consider this—that other person you think really loves you--is looking to use you for their own satisfaction, same as you are using them for yours. In effect you are both looking for the satisfaction of your own needs—and it does take long before you suck each other dry. Finally, don’t forget what the Bible says—“Be sure your sin will find you out” (Numbers 32:23). The ugly truth will eventually creep out into the open and the damage is going to infinitely worse than you could ever imagine. Nobody ever wins in an affair. The suffering ripples through your sphere of relationships like a boulder dropped into a pool of water. And although there can be forgiveness, it can never be the same again.If only you could ask King David.